About a week ago, my girlfriend was venting to me that she received a “backwards invite” to something and that it annoyed her. I listened to what she had to say – and definitely agreed with her side of things. At the same token, I’ve thought about it since and believe that it truly is a catch-22. Here’s what I mean….
For background sake, a “backwards invite” could go as follows:
B’iatch #1: So, what are you doing tonight?
Biatch #2: Going to dinner with Tanesha and Ray Ray.
B’atch #1: Oh – where are you going?
B’atch #2: Where going to John’s Pizzeria…
B’atch #1: Oh…..
B’atch #2: Why, what are you doing?
B’atch #1: I’m not sure yet … kinda wanted to do something similar to that.
B’atch#2: Well – you can come if you want to….
So what do I mean by a catch-22? Well, I understand how B’atch #1 would get annoyed. He/She pretty much had to invite themselves to hang-out with their friends…
At the same token…. (being a somewhat social individual with varying groups of friends)… I understand the quandary of B’iatch #2. Not all people get along and just because 3 different people call someone specific their friend does not mean that the group of 4 is in everyone’s best interest. This is especially true for the one “common denominator” among the group. So selfishly, why should that person have to worry about making sure that everyone gets along? In my life, I have had friends from different worlds not get along…. This certainly is not fun and extremely difficult to manage….Which will ultimately lead to either backwards invites OR no invites at all. So, what do you think? Is it better to give a half-ass invite or not give an invite at all?